Episode 27 | Let's Stop Taking Life so Serious

Who decided life was just a giant to-do list? Seriously, society needs to chill with the timelines and checklists. In this episode, we’re calling BS on the whole “you should have X done by Y age” nonsense. Spoiler alert: You’re here to live, laugh, love—not stress about whether you’re "on track."

We’re diving into how to reconnect with your inner child—the part of you that used to know how to have fun before adulting took over. Think less Excel spreadsheets, more finger painting and jumping in puddles (metaphorically... or literally, your choice).

So, grab your favorite snack, take a deep breath, and let’s remind ourselves that the ultimate goal is to enjoy the ride.

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Episode 27 | Lets Stop Taking Life so Serious

 Hey guys! Welcome to the Deep Dive In podcast with Nancy and Brenda. And we're back, baby. January January 27th, 20 2025. I was just telling Brenda how I feel. January is like the longest month ever. Yeah, but it's good. I mean, it's good for me because I feel great about it. I have a long, but it also kind of kind of feels like. What? Like it's just like I, uh, January 20th. Like, we still have 11 days. 11 days in the month. So much can happen, and just a lot can happen in 11 days, for sure. Yeah. Like, I feel like there's a lot going on, and it's like a lot in the world that's going on. And then obviously with the new like president and then all of these a million executive orders that he signed like, oh, not the fires, the fires, hurricanes or something. Yeah, yeah. That's all a part of all of the things that's happening, bro. Yeah. Um, but it feels like a lot. And I feel like. I feel I'm pretty. I personally caught myself, like, today feeling some type of way. Mhm. Because I was also like like watching like on YouTube the live and stuff, but or also on social media, like there's still stuff that that's posted and people's opinions and you know, people and certain things. And so you kind of like feel like feel that energy and that impact like it impacts you even though you feel like you don't. It does. It does a lot. Um, so I'm like, well, I'm not gonna be on my phone today. Mhm. Um, because there's just a lot. But but then again like I feel good, like I feel good. Mhm. Like I'm good like let's go. You know 11 more days to the month like let's get it. Yeah. Um so it's kind of you know. What are we doing here? Yeah. What are we doing here? But I know one of the things that I feel we've come across, and I feel like we the topics of conversation that we always bring up is just, for some reason, things that come up that are coming up in our lives or that we notice and like we're aware of, and then we're like, oh, that's a good thing to talk about, because I feel like not everybody talks about it. Right. And you do see, like you do see like different means or, um, people like people on social media that like, say, talk about this. I know Gary Vee for sure is one of the persons that always talks about like, your age doesn't matter. Like you could start at any time, like if you're 50 years old, perfect. Like that's the right time to start. It's interesting to me because you hear like you do see some people talk about it, but it's not a but there's still so many people that are actually impacted by the society we live in and the need to be at a certain place in life, you know, by the age of 21 or by the age or whatever age it is. And this has come up for us and we've been a little bit more aware of like people feeling. Anxious in a way. Yeah, because they're not meeting the timeline. Yeah, it's an unspoken thing, especially in the eye. Well, actually, I feel like in a lot of cultures, not just the Latino culture. Yeah. Like, it's an unspoken thing that by a certain age, you need to have accomplished certain things. Yeah. And you had to have checked off, like, okay, you graduated, you went to college, you bought yourself a house, you got a car by the age of 21. Yeah. Like, that's the list that we feel we need to complete. And I know that because I know I felt like that at one point when I was 21. I'm like, shit, I graduated. I got a good job now. Well, now I need to get a car and I need to get a house. And that's exactly what I did. And so were you were your parents are like, did they tell you you had to do that? No. Oh, but it was kind of like a thing. That's why I'm saying it's like an unspoken thing. Because some parents don't tell you, like, you should have all of this, but they make you feel like you need to have all of that done because they accomplished it, or because somebody's daughter, like, or somebody's daughter accomplished it, or because they came here, and now you're expected to do better or because or you may be the youngest sibling and your oldest, the oldest sibling, that is. So now you're expected to do it as well. And so it's like this whole thing that people make it. And I feel like it causes a lot of pressure on people. Unnecessary pressure, by the way. Yeah. Where they're like, well, my life is nothing because I've done none of that. And I'm 30 and they're like, no, it's okay. Yeah. Be on a timeline. Yeah. So we've encountered is that there's a lot like young people, like younger like younger than me, like I'm 39 and I'm just starting. Yeah. Like I feel like I'm just starting in life. Yeah. I feel the same way. Yeah. Because I'm. Yeah, I'm like a little. I'm like, walking and talking, but. Like, I feel like I'm just starting in life because I really like. Just because I'm. You know, kind of in a different like I see things differently. My perspective of life has changed. What I want has changed, and I'm a new person. I feel in a way. And because of that, I feel like I'm just starting life in this manner. And you, you encounter, we encounter like younger people that are like working hard and doing the thing and feel like they need to do more. And it's crazy because it's all like built up from a society. Mhm. And it's all because I know like for me my parents never told me that. So did you feel like you had to do that. I did not. Yeah. Literally my life has been my life was all like, I don't give a fuck kind of thing. That's funny, because my life has always been like, I've always been that way. Yeah. Like, I don't give a fuck. No, I feel like, no, I don't. Like, I feel like in my 20s for sure. I don't like I was just trying to survive, honestly. I was, I was trying to be alive. Uh, and, um, it wasn't like, a thing to. Oh, but even though it wasn't a thing, I did all the things. You know, like I had a good job. Yeah. You know, whatever. But I would always fuck it up. That's the thing. Like, I was never financial financially. Uh, what do you call, like, savvy? Yeah. Or. Understood. So I would always fuck it up. Right. So it's it was an ongoing cycle, and I feel that I'm barely learning. Mhm. Even though, like. Yeah I feel like I'm barely learning the things. Yeah. And, but I was never a thing like when my parents, my parents never told me that like oh God, you have to go to school or go. They never told they to never mention it. Or maybe I didn't catch that. I don't know. I don't remember my parents ever telling me, like, Nancy, you have to have a savings account and you have to save for college, or you have to save to buy a house. You want to make sure you buy a house. Yeah. Like any of that conversation. Okay. So it's crazy to me. But at the same time, just like you said. Like it's unspoken. Yeah. At the same time, I. You do feel some type of way. Yes. You do feel some type of way if you haven't bought in a house. Or if you, um, if you like, don't have a steady job, um, or whatever. Like if you didn't go to school, like I knew, I know for a long time, not a long time, but I know, like for me, since I didn't graduate, I didn't graduate high school. I dropped out of high school that it was like a whole thing. Yeah. And I dropped out and, like, I didn't care, but at the same time, I did. Okay. And so it was crazy, like, because you still like thinking back now on how I felt then and throughout my 20s. I for a long time like it kind of like, oh, I fucked up. Uh, and it was that like, regretful thing. Yeah. And like, uh. Oh fuck. Like I fucked up kind of thing. Yeah. Like did that. I didn't do the whole high school graduation thing. Right. And it's just like, uh, you know, but I was saying that because, like, my parents, like, my parents never really, like, gave, like, told me anything about any of that. But you still in the society that we live or the way the society is like you still feel some type of way if you don't have, you know, a fucking house, right? Or. If you're if your car's not paid off. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, yeah, dude. Yeah. You do you feel some type of way like. Yeah. I don't know if it's comparing yourself to other people. I think there's a bit of that. Yeah, yeah. Especially amongst those people that are like in between like maybe late 20s, like I see it in people that are maybe like 25 to like 30s maybe. Yeah. Um, like early 30s. They are like they compare. I feel like they compare themselves to either like their older siblings or like their circle of friends. Not so much I don't. Well, maybe there's still a few that may compare themselves to people on social media. Yeah, but I feel it's most with their if they have older siblings or older like cousins that they hung out with a lot. Oh yeah. And also their circle of friends. Yeah. And so I learned a long time ago to not do that, but I feel like it's happened still. Yeah. And so let's talk about you. You know what I feel like it's also like the fear of being left behind? Yes. Like. Oh, sure. Like I have nothing to show for myself. Yeah, but the thing is, like, who says you have to have something to show for yourself? Right. And who says that you need to be 30 years old to be married and have kids? Yeah. Like what? Like who made that up? Well, yeah. Do you know the answer to that? Oh, shit. I was gonna be like. Wait, what? There was no specific person, but you got me. I was gonna be like, damn, she knows the answer to that shit. You know, I think it's trickled down. From how? Back in the days, people had to have kids by the age of, like, 18 or 20, because they died aged 40. And so by the time they hit 20, they were, like, midway through their life. And so now it's trickled down into our society. And women still think that like, oh, well, I'm 30, I, I need to have kids now because my clock is ticking and I'm like, no, bro, your clock is not ticking. We are in a more advanced society. You can have kids at age 40. Yeah. So did Janet Jackson have a kid at 50? I think so, but it's probably that was probably like special circumstances. I don't know. I don't know. But the point here is that you don't. There is no clock to go against. Yeah. I feel and other people may feel different about that. Right. But it's like that is why we have a more advanced society now. Because you can live longer now and you can have children later on in life. And I think it's all about shifting that perspective that people have on life. Yeah. Like at age, we were just saying at age 30, your life is literally just starting. Yeah. Because at 18 is when you technically become an adult. So from 18 to 30 is like your trial period. I try to figure shit out. Yeah. And then at 30, you're like, all right. My 30s are supposed to be, like, the best year. Yeah, but no, 30 still, like, you're still kind of still trying. You're still learning. And it like, you, you kind of. You have some experience under your belt. Yeah. Like, you have some experience. You kind of figured out how the world works. Yeah. Kind of, you know, and the things that you have to do to be good. Yeah. In this world, essentially, you kind of figure that out by the. By the age of 30. Right. I mean, because I know for me, like, all my 20s were like I was seeing it up, partying it up. Yeah. Like, I didn't have consciousness to figure that out. Damn it. So, yeah, by 30, I was like, okay. Like, let me do something. You know, but it was also with that mindset of, like, the fear of being left behind. And because you do compare yourself to other people, because you do feel like, oh, shit. Like my cousin, they bought a house and she already has two kids. Like, I'm still trying to figure out if I'm gay or not. Like, yeah, I'm just. Yeah, I'm trying to figure it out. Or like, people in their 20s and they have kids and they're, like, still trying to figure out life, and they think they're supposed to have it all together already. Yeah. And I'm like, no, bro. Like you're just beginning. Yeah. Even though you have kids. Yeah. You're just beginning. You're just beginning. That's the thing. Like you're whatever age you're in. I feel like there's got to be some. You just have to know there is no timeline. No, it's not like this. Yeah, the society just created it so they could benefit off of you. Exactly. Exactly. Why? Why do you say that? Why do I say that? Yeah. I wasn't gonna go there. Yeah, but I'm like, you know, like. But there's there's there's there's facts behind that. Yeah. There is. There is facts in, in trying to keep a person on a timeline. It's like, to me, it's like you are trying to keep them from truly recognizing their true power and trying to place them on a timeline. Like, by this time, you do this. By this time you do this, by this time you die. It's kind of like just keeping everybody in line. Correct. Yeah. When in reality, it's kind of like, think about it. Like in school. Yeah. When, like, people start in kindergarten or kids go to kindergarten, they begin to teach them how to stand in a line and how to put their finger on their mouths, or so they could be quiet. So they begin to train them into standing into this line and conforming to the rules of the school. It's exactly the same way I feel in society. From a young age, they begin to train you and mold you into the rules of society. And so by the time you know that they are 18 and stuff, they can they are like, oh, shoot, okay, I gotta stay and like, look at the Joneses or the Kardashians and I need to do exactly what they're doing so that I can feel like I'm living a fulfilled life and make them forget about who they really are and their true interests and their true passions. Yeah. Now we have a society of 30 year olds that are like, well, I'm gonna go do this because it makes a lot of money. In reality, they don't even care to do that. Yeah. And they forget what their passions are, and they don't even know what their passions are. And that's when we are like, dude, go figure out what you like. Yeah. And then so that's that's how they keep us in, like going back to work and working, you know, working for an employer. instead of working for ourselves or. Yeah. I mean, and not I know that that's not for everyone. Yeah. You know, like, people are happy doing their job and stuff. But that's the thing. It's you. You settle for a job because it's a good job, quote unquote. And it pays good, but it's not happy. Yeah, it's not being happy. And so that's the difference I feel. Yeah. It's the difference between doing a job that you actually like and actually like you get paid and you're happy with it. And then doing and settling like it's different when you're doing a job that you hate and you settle for it because it pays good. Yeah, but you're living in misery every day of your life. Exactly. Or there's the people that are like, no, I like my job. Like, I like it. I enjoy it, like I get any time off that I want. I get paid really good. I have flexibility, right? Yeah, but if you ask yourself, is it truly fulfilling you, you will say no. Because when you say thing like, I really just want to travel. That is an inkling of you not being fulfilled by what you are doing for a living. And I don't think people connect to that. You know, they're like, dang, I just wish I had more time with my kid. But do you work at a job that you say you like and that makes makes you good money and all that stuff? Well, the fact that you're saying, like, I just wish I had more time with my kids means that there is an inkling there that maybe what you're doing for work is not something that is fulfilling you. Because you. Yeah, because it's not. It doesn't give you the freedom to spend more time with your kids or if you like you said, if you want to travel. Yeah. Like and you have like, oh, I wish I could travel more. Huh. So then go find yourself a job where you could travel. Exactly. Oh, well. Yeah. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I feel like at the same token, like, there's older people that have given up. Yeah. So not only do we have, like, the young, like young society, like people that, um, at any age feel that they're not doing enough or they're just they haven't, you know, done enough or they don't feel successful. And they, they we sometimes base our success on money and the amount of money that we have and based on success on that. And then there's also, um, people that like that have settled and they feel like they're too old. Yeah. And they don't want to start learning what they like to do. Yeah. Like they've just settled for this life of like, whatever. Right? Like they've just settled for their life that is not fulfilling. And they are also no longer like, um, motivated to find or to do any, anything if find anything that makes them happy. Mhm. Because they don't there is some people that I know that don't even believe that's a thing. Yeah. Yeah. Like there's people that I like. There's people out there that I know personally that this is the way that they are that. Don't even believe there is such a thing as being happy in life. Oh man. Like that. That's crazy. They think the misery is just. Yeah, like that's life. Oh my God. Like that's what my eyes like. That's life. There's a lot of people that think that way. Wow. That just seemed like. Well, that's life. Like it's fucking like life fucking sucks. Like, that's the way life is. And then, you know, like, you're like, wait, what? Don't like, what do you what makes you happy, you know? Or what do you like to do? What the fuck is that? What is happiness? What is happy feeling in your stomach? Yeah. You know, like butterflies are like when you're. It's so crazy to me because it's like we get caught up in these things. Like, either you get caught up in, you know, your daily life and, you know, if you're working a job and you get you get caught up in that. Um, and also like raising your kids. Mhm. You get caught up in that as well and you don't see any other way. Right. And I feel like it happens. It happens to people until like their kids are old enough and they grow up. They're old enough. And then um, you're left with like an empty nest. Yeah. Right. And then you're just like, shit. Uh. Who am I? Yeah. Like what? Yeah. Who am I? What am I? What am I doing here? And stuff. So it's it's interesting that there's got to be these certain events that happen in life like that. For example, in order for you to start, like, understand, like start learning again, like what you like to do, what or who you were before you had kids. Yeah. And and it's and that happens a lot. And sometimes, sometimes people don't even get there and they're just like, you know, they just keep going. Um, keep going on with their lives as, as they are. But I guess the point I'm trying to make is just that, like, there is so much more to life. Mhm. That I feel, um, in the society that we live in isn't talked about or isn't like because to me success comes with success is me knowing who I am. Mhm. And know and being just happy. This is funny because people are gonna say like oh it's not butterflies and rainbows all the time Nancy. Like what the, the you know, the thing is that success comes when things that happen in life don't phase you. Mhm. And like it doesn't matter. Like it doesn't matter you know. It. Not that it doesn't matter, but it just doesn't face you. You don't react to it. You just accept it. Right? But then you choose to because you could choose. There's a such thing as choosing. You can choose to feel okay about it. I'm like, oh shit, I got a flat tire. Like, fuck, this sucks. Yeah, I have to change my tire, right? You could choose to be mad and upset about it and be like, fuck, this always happens to me or whatever, right? You could be in that. You could choose to do that, but you could also choose to be like, fuck, I got a flat tire, but let's just fix it. Yeah, because we have roadside assistance. Because we have. Yeah. All the things. Yeah. To fix it. Yeah. And like, oh, let me just fix it and then that's it. Yeah. It's, it's and I don't want it to also sound like it's like dismissive of like what's happening to you. Right. Yeah. Yeah. Because I think people sometimes take it that way too. And like if you get a flat tire and, and you were like, man, this always happens to me. Well, why does it always happen to you? Are you always being the person that's like, I always get a flat tire because if you are being that person, then that shit's going to keep happening to you. Yeah. Just like how you were telling me earlier. Like, uh, Nancy was telling me earlier about how, like, well, if you keep thinking like that, that you want more and more and more, you're thinking in lack and, um, and so because you're thinking in, like, the universe is just going to respond with more lack because that's what you're putting out. And so it goes, it goes the same for everything else. It's like if you get a flat tire and you tell yourself, like, man, this always happens to me, well, you're telling the universe, give me more of this. So it's going to give you more of flat tires. Yeah. And um, so if things are occurring in your life where you're just like, man, it it just like, keeps raining on me and it keeps pouring on me and it never stops. Well, ask yourself, do I keep saying like it always rains on me. It always pours on me? If so, then maybe shift that and maybe be like, you know what? I am thankful for this right now because it'll allow me the opportunity to see blah blah, blah, right? And so making those small shifts in how you see things will definitely, uh, create more space for you to, like Nancy said, receive more successes, receive more abundance in your life. Yeah. I, I, you know, it's just going back to like. It's just being an awareness of like these things I feel. Mhm. Like what I mean by that is if you catch yourself saying more than once a day how much you hate your job. Yeah. Like take that into consideration. You, you don't just say these things because you're trying to be lazy and not work or whatever. Like you're. That's your that's your intuition literally telling you, like, hey, this is not for you. Yeah. Like, this is not making you happy. And I understand, like, sometimes like I, me for example, I'm like putting myself out there. Mhm. Me what I do right now for a living. And my day job is not it's not fulfilling me. Right. But it's essentially providing finances. Right. So it's kind of like I'm in a middle stage right now of like trying to make other things happen that are going to feel fulfilled, but that are going to fulfill me to be able to release the opportunity of having security right of this job. But what I but that that's another thing like, who's to say it is security because it could go away in any moment. Yeah. You know, it's it's like being insecure. Nothing is secure when it comes to your job. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. Oh, don't open up that can. So nothing is secure. But I mean, I at least I'm aware. I'm aware that what I'm doing currently for work, um, and to secure finances, the energy that I'm putting into it is or I guess I should say, the energy that I'm getting from it is not fulfilling and it's not aligning with my energy. Right? Right. So it's draining. Yeah. At times. So the work that I do is draining at times. And it's not something that, um, that it, it's not something that I'm 100% like. Like I feel joyful, like I'm excited about like I'm not excited about it every day. Right. And I feel I and I understand that what I want to be doing is something that excites me every day, you know? So I'm aware of that. Like I'm aware that. This is temporary and, you know, working and working to do or working to, um, get in alignment and bring in something to my life that is going to fulfill me. Yeah, right. And still have that security as well. Yeah. So in that that's the thing like in that in betweenness because some people say like, well I say actually not some people me like I can't just quit my job. Yeah. You know, like I just can't quit my job. But I can be an awareness that the job that I'm doing is not fulfilling me energetically. Mhm. And I don't feel like it's something I want to continue doing. Right. And so I accept that and I'm aware of that. And now what I do on my spiritual practices is I call in an opportunity that is going to excite me and is going to fulfill me and also provide me that security. Exactly. Because I believe that there is something out there for me to do. Yeah. So that I feel like that's where the that's where it lies. That's where like the like that's the happy place, I guess. I don't know what like how to describe it, but what I'm trying to say is like, I feel it's important to be in awareness. Mhm. So if you're saying multiple times a day or feel multiple times a day like. Oh, I hate doing this. Or, you know, like, whatever. Um, it is like, something that you hate, but you're doing anyway. Pay attention to those things, because that's your indication that you should start calling in something that you want to do. Yeah. And if you don't know what you wanted because I don't know what the fuck I want to do. Yeah, right. But like, for example, I love doing this podcast. It's something that I enjoy. And I think I freaking said, I've said that in every episode. I think I love this so much. That's literally our clip. Guys, for all of our podcast promotions is me saying how much I enjoy doing the podcast, but I enjoy doing the podcast. Yeah, and I know that this realm, this space of entertainment and this space is like something that has always been in me, that I've shut down because society, because I never because it was like, oh, I'm not gonna make any money off of that. Yeah, I have to go work a job. Yeah. What do you mean? Yeah. Do a podcast and then make money off of it? Yeah. Like or anything. Really? Because that's another thing society does is when a child or a person comes and says, I want to be an artist. Mhm. Of any type, whether it's paint, music, whatever. Everybody's an artist is. So you know that I just want you guys to know that every single person is an artist. But when children are like, I want to be an artist, parents automatically are like, well, that's not gonna make you money. So I'll find a real job. And little by little, they start to crush that person's dream, and then they're like. And then the person is stuck at, like, a desk job because, like, that's what they found. Like, pays them good. Right? And so they've suppressed all of this for so long. And, um, and now they're just like, I don't know what to do with my life. I'm stuck. I'm like, well, go find what you like to do. That's what you're supposed to be doing. And and then it's hard for somebody to see. What do I like? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And then? And then. That's it. That's how. That's how far they go. Yes. Is asking. The asking. Excuse me. Asking themselves like, oh, well, what do I like to do. Exactly. And then they can't find the answer to that. So they stop. So they stop. And then it's like, well, let me just go get a job then. Yeah. So one way you guys that you can talk a little deeper, I like that in my life. Like, yeah, this is me. Yeah. Like I've done that. Yeah. It's like, oh, well, like, what do I like to do. Right. Yeah. Or I want to do something like that the other day too. I'm like, I don't know what I like to do for fun. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Like I remember. So 2018, when I moved back to California, I didn't like I took a break or I didn't go back to work right away. Yeah. And I was just trying to, like, hustle. Yeah. And make money some way or another. Um, and it was so much uncertainty right in that time. And I felt honestly like I felt, um, desperate and like I felt. Like a failure. Mhm. And I felt like all of these negative things during that time. But I kept but I'm like fuck I have like I have to make something happen. Yeah. And mostly it was just like I have to make money. I have to make money because I have shit to pay. Right. And I have to make money. And that's really all what I was focusing on. And then I started listening to more. I went from listening to, like, a hustle mentality like, uh, I don't know, mentors or whatever. Into more spiritual, um, um, like more spiritual stuff. And it shifted for me. Yeah. Like, I no longer was, like, trying to make it happen. And then one Sunday afternoon, a co-worker sends me a text message out of nowhere and was like, hey, where are you living these days? I say, no, you don't stay in one place. And I'm like, oh, I'm in California. Like, what's up? Right? Somebody I hadn't talked to in years. Just text me on a Sunday afternoon. And I still remember this. And she's like, hey, what are you doing? Uh, where are you living? Yeah. And I'm like, oh, whatever. And then she's like, well, um, actually, I worked for this company, and they're hiring remote and, like, you should really, like, come work with me. Yeah. And I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm down. I'm like, what is it? Right. She told me about it. She told me about it. Yeah. On Monday. So this was Sunday. On Monday. I spoke to the manager and by Tuesday I already had my equipment. That's crazy. Yeah. And then a few months later, we met. Yeah. Yeah, I love it. Yeah, but it was in the like. I surrendered pretty much. Right. Like, I, I wasn't I wasn't desperate in that moment. Like I wasn't desperate and something just fell. Mhm. Just fell in my lap and it was a it was a great like it was the best thing that could have happened to me. Um it was a remote job. So I was working from home and it was amazing. So this was before Covid. Yeah, actually. So it was a remote job. I was working from home and I was able to, you know, be there and have my mom with with my dad and, um. Yeah. And it was, it was decent pay, like. Yeah, it was perfect. It was everything I needed. Yeah. And it was fun. Yeah, it was a very fun job. But I was. I. I. I. Shifted. Right. Shifted the way that I was feeling. Um. And I feel like that's why that happened. And obviously that job changed the course of my life, for sure. Yeah, and here we are. Ha ha ha. Um, but, you know, like, it's just, um. I feel like it's it's being an awareness. And then if you don't know, like, what you like to do, it's it. It's okay. Mm. It's okay not to know, but give yourself. Give yourself the chance. I feel like you have to give your yourself an opportunity to grow. Mhm. And to expand. Right. And to try new things. Yeah. I know for myself I've, I been, I've been very outgoing like I'm outgoing and stuff but at the same time like I'm very introvert. Yeah. And I know that's one of the things that like. I know, like I'm working on trying to be involved in more things outside of just staying home because I feel like I'm a little hermit, you know, like I just stay home and this is my safe place stuff because I work from home. So it's just like, I'm good here. You go to the back yard and inside. Yeah, yeah I did. Yeah yeah yeah. And then I go. But I mean that's the thing. Like it's putting yourself like giving yourself that grace of like okay I don't know what I like. I don't know because it's not something I've asked myself. I don't know what I like to do, but I know that what I'm doing is not it? Yeah. So let me figure it out. Right. And then you could try new things. Yeah. You know, the best thing about where we are right now in time is that we have access to all of these fucking information, right? I mean, sometimes it could be a bad thing, but, yeah, it could also be a good thing. And if you search on YouTube for videos on different things that you kind of like. Thought of or when you were a kid they used to like to do, and you search it or whatever, and then you start finding ideas or groups. I remember you told me that you like to, that you used to like scrapbooking. Yeah. Yeah. And then you found this flyer at the library scrapbooking group? Yeah. Every Tuesday of a month. And I'm like, what? And so. And and I ended up at that library by accident. It's so funny. Like, so I was telling you how I'm like, oh, yeah. Like, I want to start scrapbooking again because I like that. I used to like that. Right? And then I, I went to this library because I was supposed to meet up with somebody and I'm, I call them and they're like, I'm here. And then I'm like, no, you're not. And then I'm like, shoot, I gave you the wrong address. And while I was looking for them, I encountered the page, the flyer of like, oh, we have a scrapbooking group. I'm like, oh my God. So I grabbed the flyer. Right. Yeah. And, um, and then I went to the right library, and that was like, they You weren't even in the right. Yeah. Yeah. But you see, like that's point proven. Yeah. It just comes to you. Yeah. Right. And I know not a lot of people are big fans of scrapbooking, but. Hey. Well, whatever. Whatever it is, it's up to you. And I'd like, because I do a lot of inner child healing sound baths with people. Yeah. You dive into the inner child and a lot of the times. Um, what I tell people is, like, sometimes you come to a point in your life where it feels like you're stuck and you feel like, what do I do with my life now? And a lot of people that I've met, they're just like, I don't know what to do now. Like. Like, I don't know what to do. Like, I have a career. I feel like I've reached the top of the career. Like I have nowhere else to go. Um. And I don't know what else to do. Like, they're married. They have kids, right? They have a whole life. Yeah. And, um, in in these inner child sessions, um, what I've found is that a lot of them. I don't know how to reconnect to that younger part of themselves, to that little part, that little version of them, um, that was either seven or younger before the world told them who to be. And that age when you were seven or younger, that was your prime age of you being in your creativity, of you being in your full essence, knowing that like you are everything. Like if you notice kids, they would just keep asking and keep asking and keep asking and you make it. Adults make it seem like, oh, stop being ungrateful, just be thankful. But kids are born like not. We are all born like this, but kids know their abundance and they know that there's more. And it's once you get past the age of seven that you're like, oh shoot, there's a limit. There is no fun. Yeah, but below seven years old, you know that. They're like, money's everywhere. Like you don't even know there's a restriction on money. And so, um. Something to add to what you were saying is ask yourself, what did I like to do when I was seven or younger, like you said, right. Like you like to do when you were little, so fine when you were seven or younger, what did you like to do? And, um, and that's how you're saying you you said, like, if I enjoyed the entertainment stuff. Yeah. That was when you were. When you. Yeah. Yeah. I started like dancing I would do. It's funny because yesterday we were seeing we were looking at pictures when we were little, uh, and I was doing folklorico. I remember like, I used to do little modeling sessions or whatever, but I always used to like to perform. Yeah. Always. Right. And somewhere along the path you got shut down with that. Yeah. And that happens to a lot of people. And so what I came shot, you became a quote unquote introvert. Yeah, but it's all die. Oh my God. So. So anyways, my recommendation is, you know, think back to when you were seven or younger and what did you like to do? And write it down. Write all the things down, write a list down. And then like for one week, do something on that list that you used to like to do and see if you still enjoy it. Yeah. And then if you don't, then go, okay, cross it off. Really go do something else on the list for the next week, right. But begin to give yourself that time of reconnecting with that younger version of you that forgot they were there. And little by little, you will begin to call back that inner child of yours, and you will begin to see the world a little differently. Yeah, because children see the world a lot differently than we do. I feel like, um, as you're saying this, it makes me feel like. It's like. What came to me is just have fun. Yeah. Like just have fun. Like, don't. Don't take life so serious. Yeah. And I feel this time, the timelines that we put on each other and we put on ourselves. It's like, no, I have to do this by this time. And it. And it doesn't make it fun. And then you. That's why I feel like that's why we feel like stuck or we feel like, anxious and depressed and frustrated at ourselves because we putting we're putting all of this pressure on ourselves for no reason. Because we don't have anything to prove to anybody. Yeah. Like there's nothing to prove. Like there's nothing to prove. Let me say that again. There is nothing to prove to anybody. So it's like you're putting all of this pressure on yourself, on what you think you should be, where you should be, what you should have. And it's all like a conspiracy. Yeah. There's no such thing of what you should have and what you should do. Um, so that's why we. That's why I feel like we just take life too serious. Yeah. And it's not supposed to be taking that seriously. No, we're supposed to have fun with it. In that fun, we start creating, and we start, like, just loving it and flowing, and everything just starts, like working out for you for some reason. Like you're like, whoa. Yeah. So if you made it this far. Thank you, thank you. But if you made it this far, I have some fucking fun. Yeah. You know, like. And what I mean by it is, if you haven't written a bike in years like I hadn't, yeah, your ass is definitely gonna hurt. But go fucking ride a bike at the park or something. Yeah, and like, when I did it for the first time after so many years, I felt like a little kid. Ah. And I was just like. Oh, like I forgot how much I love doing this. I used to ride my bike all the time when I was little. It was like a thing, like, just right fast around the block. Yeah. And it made you just feel free. Yeah. And that's how I felt when I rode the bike again, like, a couple months ago. Yeah. Um, and it felt so freeing. And I was like, oh, my God. Like, this is this is it. This is the fun that you like. It sounds stupid. I'm not gonna lie. I understand in the society that we live with, whatever we're fucking saying, you know, to do may sound fucking stupid. Yeah, I get it. Yeah, but it's not. No. The pressure and the the timelines and all that shit that you're putting up. That's fucking stupid. That's stupid. Yeah. Don't hate us for this. But you know what? That's true. That's true. We don't have anything to prove. No. Like, it's just that. Like it's. You were literally came into this planet to have fun, but then you decided to make it all hard on yourself. Yeah. Yeah. And it's not. It's not your fault. Like, that's just the way the world. Like that's our society. Yeah. We fucking like you said. Like they're trying the. The system has been set up to control us and dim our light. Yep. And dim our creativity. And there are some people that have broken through those barriers and everybody can. Mhm. There's plenty to go around. Yeah. There is abundance upon abundance upon abundance. There is no limitation to our life or anything that you want to do. Yeah. So stop taking this shit so serious. You are free to go and paint your fucking face if you want to, and run around if you want to, and dress however you want to dress, cut your hair however you want to, cut your hair and pursue whatever the fuck you want to pursue. Yeah, there's nothing to prove. There is no timeline to follow. Right. Have some fucking fun. Once again, guys, thank you for listening. If you gain something or feel inclined to share this episode, please do so. Go to our Instagram. Deep Dive in podcast. That's dive in, dive in and connect with us there. Comment. Share. Post. We appreciate the support so much and we will catch you on the next one.