EP 29 | What Sets Your Soul on Fire?

Alright, mi gente—let’s talk about that fire inside! In this episode, Nancy almost quit her job, but plot twist—her job never gave her an answer. So, she had an aha moment about how much control she actually has over her own life. We also get into how YouTube has her feeling all passionate and why you gotta chase what genuinely excites you—because that’s where your purpose is hiding, waiting for you to claim it.

Brenda and Nancy also spill the tea on the power of being 100% authentically you. Porque when you’re real, you’re magnetic. And when you’re magnetic, you start attracting all the things you want. No forcing, no chasing—just pure vibras altas.

Oh, and tell us, do you wanna be part of our group chat? We’re tryna build a little community of like-minded souls who get it. Hit us up on IG or text us—we wanna hear from you!

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Transcript

EP 29 | What Sets Your Soul on Fire?

Hey, guys. Welcome to the Deep Divin podcast with Nancy and Brenda. We are back, baby. Welcome back. Welcome back to another episode. Yeah. Dive in. We're almost at 30 episodes, you guys. I know, Holy moly. It's funny, because I was telling my brother in law yesterday, he asked me we went to eat, right? And he asked me like, oh, so I was just, like, sharing with him. He. I don't know what he asked me. And then he started asking me. I was so how did you and Brenda meet? Or like, how did you how did you guys. Like, was she still married? Like me? And I'm like, so you don't listen to my podcast? To our show. I'm like, so apparently you don't listen to our podcast because you don't know our story. And if you want, all the cheese may go back and start. It's like, how many episodes have you? I'm like, I think we're at 28 right now. Yeah. He's like, oh, shoot. I'm like. He's like, yeah. And they're about an hour or so. He's like, I don't think I could hear all of that. I'm like, I need rhymes. Yeah. I'm like, come on you. You drive for a living. Yeah. So I thought that was funny. I was like, yep. Apparently you don't listen to me or podcast. What, did you tell him, the story or. No. No. Okay, good. I'm like, no, you have to go listen to it. Good. I'm like, sure. I'm like, come on, we need to listen. Like we need the plays. Yeah, downloads or whatever. So yeah, like if you want the Cheeseman on, you know, our trials and tribulations in our relationship, you guys could go back to listen to previous episodes if you haven't already. If you have. Thank you so much for listening in. Yeah, we really do appreciate it. Shit, I will be too. I'll be like, what is. What happened? Friend of the church girl is now a lesbian. Yeah, yeah. We have a very interesting episode today. Yeah, there's a lot going on in our lives and obviously everybody's lives. And I feel like we're in a moment right now in our time where, at least for me, it feels like, very, like loud. It's been. We don't have a lot of time here. Yeah. You know, and, um, and I feel like I don't know if it's a combination of things. It's. I'm pretty sure it's like my growth in being aligned with who I. Who I am. And I feel I've always had, like, since I was young, I feel like I've had that connection. But for what, one reason or another, I kept going with society's way of doing things right. Yeah. Um, I think I've come into, um. A place in my life where I. I'm stripping away from. I'm stripping off the fear and, um, the scariness that it comes to. Going against the masses and going against, you know, the way things have been done for whatever reason. And I feel like there's I feel like there there's a lot of that going on right now. And, and people transitioning to following their dreams and following their intuitions and yeah, following like what they really want to do in life. More with the sense of urgency. Because. Because we realize like we've been lied to. Yeah, I feel that way. I feel like shit. Like. And it's not that like I knew these things, but you get, um, consumed, I guess, or you get, um, pulled in by society's measures of success. Yes. Because I feel like that's what that's all people know. Yeah. No, it's only natural. Like, it's not anybody's fault or anything like that for being pulled in and staying on that train, because your whole life you've been on that train? Yeah. And a lot of people are scared to jump off the train because they're going to get hurt or they're going, they could die. Or like, you know, like that, that metaphor of imagine a train going and jumping off the train like it's scary, right? And so it's completely understandable. Yeah. So I know that both of us are currently have different things going on in our lives with this literally the same subject. I know I'm going through it. Um, and so I wanted to dive into, like our current situations, the transition that you've made from being in a corporate role for quite some time. And I know that you were also in like a the find like being your own business through a finance company. But I feel that's also like corporate in a way. Yeah. I could see why. Yeah. Yeah. But now, you know, transitioning to following your dreams and following your your intuition. Your intuition. So I want to share a little bit about my, like, what I'm currently going through. Yeah. And trying to follow my, my dreams and intuition and what I, what I, what I'm passionate about. I feel like that's the main thing. Like we're scared. Like, first of all, it's so scary. It is so scary and it is fear driven because all of your life you've been told you have to work and you have to have a job writing. Um, and I feel like there's a lot of since Covid, there's been transitioning to more business owners. Yeah, because of the Covid times and a lot of people getting laid off. And then they just started following, like their hobbies and that into a business. And now with like social media and the TikTok era and, you know, being able to market yourself through social media to create your own platform. For example, I feel like there's a lot of entrepreneurial entrepreneurship that has came out of that. Yeah. Um, so I do feel like we're in a new era of like of how people make a living. Yes, I completely agree. Yeah. I think now, like I've told you and I've told several other people, making money is no longer about staying at a 9 to 5. Yeah. There are so many ways you can make money now. Yeah. Yeah. You could be a coach and go make 2000 bucks for the month there. You can upload YouTube and TikTok videos and make another $1,000 for the month there. Yeah. Can, um, go work somewhere else? Right. And and, like, do that for like, ten hours a month and, and end up making another $1,000 a month. Yeah. It's like. There's so many other ways that people can make money. Sometimes we become so closed off or closed minded because we've never been exposed to anything else. Yeah, or we may not know anybody that's done it, you know. Yeah. Or like maybe we do, but then at the same time we try to trick ourselves and say like, oh, they're lucky. Yeah, they got in at a good time. Yeah. Or they started way before I did. Like it's going to take me so long. Whatever the case may be. But I feel like there's just definitely a new transition right now. And like, after Covid with everything, you know, like I mentioned. And so. And also growth. Like, I know for me it's mostly it's mostly about my growth and and stripping away again, stripping away from thinking that there's only one way to be successful and that was to have a job or have a good job and like whatever. Right? But in my growth, I feel like right now I it's kind of like it is very it's been very like loud for me too. In, in my, in my life on a daily basis when I'm doing my job or I'm at work. Yeah. Um, I don't feel connected to what I do. I don't feel excited or passionate about it. Right. And it's crazy because at one point I did, at one point I did. And now I feel like I, I feel like I've stayed as long as I did because I've been doing. I've been in the mortgage industry now for like ten years. And at one point it was exciting, you know, because you're helping people, you know, refinance or purchase their house. Um, which is exciting, but at the same time. I. I always battled in the back of my mind because it's all dead. Yeah. So it's like I always battled with it, but, you know, whatever. I, I just feel like I no longer feel passionate about it. And I there's more passion that I feel with, you know, doing this right, doing this or, you know, creating more content and like talking to people in regards to ways we could better ourselves and kind of like a life coach in a way, is something that I'm that I would want to do. Yes. And help people come back to themselves and and realize how powerful we are. Yes. And as crazy as that may sound like, it's crazy that we don't see a lot of people don't feel that way. Right? Yeah. They don't. We don't feel empowered to take the steps that we need to to do what we want to. And I would love to be on the side of helping people get there. And that's. I'm passionate about that. Like, I'm passionate about having those conversations or listening to people in regards to that. It lights me up. Yeah. Um, I could literally be talking to somebody all day. Right. If we're having these type of conversations and I. And therefore I realize, like, oh, this is what I'm passionate about. Yeah, this is what I want to be doing. This is who I am. Right. And so with that, I was I like, made the decision. Right. I made the decision to tell my current employer, like, you know, I'm no longer aligned with this with this work. So therefore, like, I need to quit because it doesn't make sense to stay doing something that I'm not passionate about and that I'm not giving 110% of of me. Yes. In the job. Yeah. It's it's not fair to myself. And that's not fair to a company as well. Right. But because, um, because of certain things within the company, like, I'm currently like their appointed, uh, appointed person for the state of Nevada. So they kind of need me to be there in order for them to do business in the state of Nevada. So I quit, kind of. Um, but I also didn't want to leave them hanging. Okay. Right. So I was just like, you know, you guys let me know if you need me to stay until you figure out somebody else to put in that position. Right. And they said, yeah, like, let us see what we can do. And they did offer me more money to stay or like, help me out or whatever. But then again, it's like I'm like, I don't care. Like, it's not that I don't care about the money, but it's like, I'm not going to live. Am I going to continue doing something just because they're offering me more or whatever if I'm not aligned with it anymore. Yes. And sometimes I feel people fall into that like, yes. Oh, well, I have a good job. It has security. And then it also, um, I have insurance or whatever the case and then that's it. Mhm. Like that's, that's what, that's why they stay. And I know I say it because that's been me. Right. Like I know that I've stayed in jobs or I stayed doing this because I know that you can make money doing it. Right. Yeah. But then that's it. Yeah. There's no fulfillment. There's no other fulfillment. And it's just that. So I'm currently in the transition of like. Well, I haven't heard back from them. So, so so technically employed. I'm still technically employed. Follow me on TikTok for a live story on that. But I'm still technically employed. But the point that I'm trying to make here is. Taking those steps? Yes. I feel like I'm. I'm following more my intuition and I'm following more. The enlightenment on what I feel passionate about. And I don't know how the money's going to come. Yeah. I don't know what's going to happen, but what I do know is that I'm no longer being fulfilled with what I'm doing. So I think that's the most important part. Mhm. If you're feeling like I, I just couldn't like I couldn't take it anymore. Right. And I think it's important for people to remember that you, you have to do what makes you feel good. And I know sometimes people are like it's not all about what feels good. Brenda, I get that you have to understand that if you are every day going to something that you dread going to, that you hate to drive there, you hate to drive back and all of the things that come with that. Yeah. Like you're only making your life worse. Yeah. With that feeling. Because that feeling is going to attract you. Shittier stuff. Right. And I actually want to read something that I came across this morning, and it was about how your passion is. You said, like, your passion is about like kind of being a coach to others, right? Like a guide? Yeah. Really. And I read something this morning that said it went to my spam folder, but it said, why you're more qualified to be a coach than you think. And one of the things that that email said is your ideal client is a former version of you. Think back to the problems you had 3 to 7 years ago that you've now overcome. That's your people. Yeah. And you know that I say this and I say this to people all the time that your story is your medicine. That your story is here to be of guidance to somebody else. That is just now going through the same thing that you went through already. Right. And grew through and learned through. Right. And so it is highly possible for you to be a guidance counselor or guidance person or coach. Right. Yeah. Just like it is for the people that are listening to this, they have gone through shit, too, and they've grown through it and they've learned from it. And now they can be a guide to somebody else who is going through that. Yeah. And so and if that's something that motivates you and inspires you like to be of help to somebody else. Like. Hello? Message. Yeah. Yeah. And it's and it's also and it's also something that I've, that I've known of myself for a very long time. I've always known and I know that if like people that know me from a long time, like from a long time ago, um, that I've worked with their ex coworkers or whatever. Like, I know they'll probably say the same. Yeah, because I would always get that, like, oh, you're always like, um, encouraging and you're supportive and like, like, I could count on you or I could trust you or I, like, open up to you so fast or whatever. Right. And thinking about, like, my passion or what I'm passionate about or actually being aware of it, I think back to those things that were said to me, you know, since I was young. Yeah, whatever. And I'm like, Holy shit. Like, it's been a thing all my life, but I've never allowed it. I was never as aligned. I know that I needed the more experience or I needed that the rest of the experience in my life to come through, um, the conclusion and the growth that was needed to be a more support to other people. Correct. It's exciting, but it's also scary because of the unknown. But I feel like more and more you become closer to like, I know for me, I know I'm getting closer or I'm having. I'm creating. I don't know how to. I don't know how to call it, like, either creating or I'm having, or I'm coming closer to God and my relationship with God. And I feel that because of that, it's helping me strip away the fear and the unknown, like the fear of the unknown and the fear of whatever. Like how what are people going to say? Or I mean, which that honestly doesn't really matter? Yeah, mostly is like finances for me. It's like, oh shit, like, how are we going to pay for it or whatever, right? That's the biggest thing I feel. Right. Everything else is like, okay, but I know that in the surrendering to your to feeling good and doing something that's passion. Passion like that, you're driven by passion and you're feeling good about it, and you're helping and you're being of service. The rest will follow. Yeah. Yes. And it's just like stepping into that and trusting that 100%. Yeah. Into that surrender and flow. Yeah. You know it's funny you said this right now. And then I thought of this that people are scared of the unknown. Yeah. And I know you're scared of the unknown. I'm scared of the unknown. Right. Like it's just a thing and. Right. Um. But what I thought it was our whole life is unknown. Yeah, like, from the moment we're born. Yeah, yeah. We don't know. Nothing. We don't know. No. We don't know what they don't know. Because we're so dumb. Like you're just going day by day. So, yeah, like, there's no reason for us to be scared of the unknown. Yeah. You know, like, you could quit your job today, and then tomorrow you get an offer from somebody or some place, something comes up and you're just like, oh, okay. Right. Yeah. Cracked me up anyway. It's hilarious. Yeah. Because it's so true. Yeah. We live in the what ifs. Like we live stuck sometimes going over and over. What if this happens? What if that happens? Like what? Like. Yeah. The worst that could happen is that you died. But actually, that's the best that could happen. Yeah. Yeah, dude. Like, I mean, not to lie here in bliss. Yeah. Happiness. Anyways, so. Yeah, that's interesting, because it's true. Like, you know, like we do overthink the unknown. Yeah. We created our own selves. Yeah. The issues. Right? Yeah. Yeah. Like nobody. Like there's uncertainty with everything. Yeah. Like, there's no. There's no way that we can know what's going to happen or whatever. Mhm. Even if you have a set plan. Yeah. Even if you have like projections. Yeah. Right. Like company has like projections for quarter one quarter two like. I'm sorry, but you're. You never know. Yeah. No, you never know. No. So. Yeah. I mean, I'm excited to. I'm excited for this. For this new, what do you call it, era? Yeah, this new era. I'm excited for it. And I know you and I had a conversation earlier today because I'm still, like, waiting in lingo to see what the company decided. Like what the company like if they could get somebody else to, like, cover, like, take over my spot or whatever. But then I know you mentioned to me like, well, you have to take control of your life. Mhm. And I'm like, oh shit like that. Yes it's true. Yeah. Me telling them that I want like that I was quitting was me starting to take control of my life. But then I reverted back to what I know, which is the people pleasing and making sure that they were okay. And I'm still continuing to show up for them with, like, this, uh, not wanting to. Yeah. With the dread. Yeah, with the dread. Um, so. Yeah. It's still. It's still a work in progress, obviously, but. But I feel like you were right. Like I have to just make sure I'm in control of my life. Like, it's. It's essentially what I feel, what I want to follow. Right? Yeah. Yeah. And like, I know I mentioned to you also and I'm going to say it again because I feel it will be helpful for people. Like whenever you're doing something that feels scary or you, you, you like acknowledge the fact that you're scared, right? Yeah. Um, where that fear comes in. Just know that it's a normal response. Like your brain is literally just trying to keep you safe because it thinks like you're in danger. And so it's like, no, like, just stay here. Like, yeah, this is where we feel safe. Like, just stay here with me. That's what people call the comfort zone, right? It's like, oh, let's just stay here because this will be helpful for you and it'll pay your bills and all that stuff. Right? But the moment you choose otherwise, like you're saying, like, take power over my life, take control over my life, that is stepping outside of the comfort zone. And so. When we do that, when we step outside of the comfort zone, our brain literally, physically begins to create the little lines that our brain has. It begins to create a new little line, and it begins to like, be like, oh, the neural pathways, the neural pathway. And it's like, oh, she stepped outside. Yeah. Oh, we're not dead. Oh we're okay. Yeah. So it begins to form a new pathway in your brain to restructure. Now what safety now means to the brain. Yeah. And so that's where we have to keep going outside the comfort zone to create new, higher levels of ourselves. And so. Or else just stay complacent or you stay. Yeah. Yeah. You stay comfortable. Comfortable your whole life because you feel scared. And then your mind's like, no, no, no, stay here, stay here. Exactly. That makes a lot of sense. Yeah. And I know that you actually, you had a transition. That's funny to say. You had a transition from corporate to now business owner, essentially. Yeah. And I know that you are now pursuing. And it's crazy because I could see like I see it firsthand. Yeah. That, you know, everything that's happened for you. Yeah. Because of you following your intuition. But I do want to just know, like, what are some things that you had to overcome for yourself. Coming from having a corporate job and having that secured finance, right. Aspect of things. And that's really all a job provides. Now that I think about. Unless you really love what you do right. Yeah. Like yeah. As a core, if you have a corporate job that you really love, like that's another story. Yeah I feel yeah. But yeah. What are some things that you have encountered for yourself that you know, you had to overcome when you were, you were laid off in October, and then it was kind of a conversation that we had like, well, do I find another job like. And it's been an ongoing thing and you've been like, I think I'm going to go find a job. Yes. Right. So yeah, tell, tell, tell me a little bit about that. Well I did yes, I did get laid off in October of last year 2024. And I saw it coming. Yeah I saw it coming. I remember you and I had conversations about that and I'm like, I don't know, something's off. Right? Then bam, it happened. But during that time what was really helpful was you telling me like, well, babe, this means like, just prepare, you know, just prepare. And like, to me, what preparing is, is trying to let go of the mental things because I, I am I was so like. Okay, well, a job is going to provide me the stability and the security that I need financially. And then I'll do what? What sets my soul on fire. My passion on the side. Right. And and it got to the point where I wasn't liking my job anymore. I like I used to love it, I love, but it was because of the interaction with the people that I used to have. Yeah. And like providing that one on one guidance, that group guidance. And then I got moved from that. And then I was like, oh, this is not it anymore. Yeah. And it's been difficult in the sense of trying to release the control that I thought I had, um, by having a job because I thought that by having that job I would or that I could control everything else. Right. Like, yeah, those would be paid and all of the other things that come with that. Yeah. And so the most difficult thing was letting go of that concept because it's just a concept. Yeah. That is made up right. And learning to flow and learning to surrender and learning to be like okay. Like it's going to be okay. And learning that I'm not alone. And what I mean by that is that the universe is here for me, and that the universe wants to fulfill all of my desires, and that it wants to give me everything that I want. But I am the one that is in my own way. And I think that society has made us believe that we have to work very hard for all of the things that we desire in our heart. Yeah. And the truth is that, yes, you have to action on it. You have to work and like, put your foot forward for what you want, but not necessarily work hard. Yeah, as people know it to be nowadays, because I know that I already want like the universe already wants to give me everything. I just need to begin taking the steps. Yeah. So that's kind of been my journey so far in that. And I think you've seen it firsthand that the moment I began to allow myself to just take the first steps, even if I'm scared, you have seen the result of that, and I've seen people come to me and like, oh, let's do this. Or when I ask people to collaborate with me. They're like, yes, I'll do it for free. And I felt weird by that. Like weirded out like that. People that people I would ask to come collaborate with me on events. They'd be like, yeah, let's do it. And I'd be like, okay, well, this is how much I estimate the profit that's going to come in from these ticket sales. Like, I don't know how much will really be available for like us to make money on it. And then they'll be like, don't worry about it. I'll do it for free. And I'm like, what? And it was very hard for me to accept that because it goes back to the concept of you think you have to work hard for it, right? But the universe is literally giving you the people to be like, here, go make this happen here. This is the person you need to do this right. And that's literally the universe sending me what I need. Yeah. And yeah. Because we don't know like we don't know how it's going to come. Yeah. Like I know like yeah like I don't we don't know how the things that we want are going to be brought to us. Yeah. Like for example, if you want $100,000. Right. And you think like, okay, well. And you sell shirts. Like, okay, well, I have to sell these many shirts to make this much amount or whatever. And you start working towards that, but then you literally just get an investment for 100,000. Yeah. That you never even thought that was going to happen. But you just we never know how the universe is going to bring the things that we want. We just literally have to stay in trust and in alignment with what we want. And in that high vibration to like, just attract that. Right. And that's that's the practice. That's what I've had to really work on is maintaining that high vibration where I say right. Because, because for so much like we allow other people to control our emotions and how we feel. And it's so true. And I used to be a victim of that. I would be like, oh, well, they're they're not. I'm going to be mad. Yeah. Like, oh they're happy. Let me be happy with them. Right. And so many people do that like, oh they're feeling like shit today will find that. And I don't feel like shit too. Right. And we well, we mimic other others Other person's energy. Yeah. Yes. With sometimes without even, like, thinking about it? No, it's just something you're used to. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And you're. Because you're just trying to make sure you're okay. Yeah. You know, and you don't get them mad or like. Yeah, you cause problems and all of this stuff. And so that's been something that I've had to learn and grow through. Right. And like, maintaining my energy despite what is around me. I must admit that my kids are my biggest test. You are one of my tests. My family is one of my tests, right? That I continuously learn like, oh, shoot. Like they're making me feel this way. And sometimes I do like a lot like get myself and feel like a certain type of way and I and what I in what way are your like in what way? For example are your kids a test? So like for example, my oldest is very like she has a very strong character, like very strong mood and like and I know this like I'm aware of it, right. Yeah. But there's times where, like, she gets into these moods and I'm just like, seriously, dude, I'm like, what the hell is wrong with you? Like, why? And why are you mad? Yeah, because, you know, I didn't let you watch your tablet today. Like that's why you're mad. I'm like, oh, so you're going to be mad the rest of your day, and you're going to ruin your day because you didn't watch your tablet and like. And that makes you mad. And that makes me mad because I'm like, you're choosing to make yourself mad for the rest of the day. Dude, what the heck? And, um, that's definitely a test. Yeah. So it's like. And I catch myself and then. But then you, like, sometimes help me, right? And you're like, whenever I can. Yeah, because sometimes there's no help. No. There's no. Yeah. So I'm not saying like, oh, like we're perfect and we know how to control our vibration and all of that. Yeah. No, because shit still goes down the drain sometimes. It's a constant thing. Yeah. It's like every second of the day. Yeah. You know, and what it is, is the awareness of it all and choosing, you know, to to grow from that. Yeah. And I feel like the more you practice it, the more the easier it gets to get yourself back to the high vibration. Yeah. Like, I know the more that we practice it individually. Like, I could see the change in us from a month ago or even a month ago as a couple and individually. Yeah, I know that. We like sometimes we feel our mood off and then we kind of identify it and then we try to like revert back to being okay. Yeah. And it's not that we're ignoring the situation because we do talk about it and we talk about like, okay, what happened there? Yeah. Why did you get mad or whatever? We just talk it out to make sure that we're always back in that high vibration, because we understand that being in the highest vibration, if we can stay in the highest vibration for most of the time that we're here. Therefore we receive. What we want. Yes. And don't get me wrong. Like there's shit happening in the world that makes us sad and angry. Yeah, we still feel that shit. And we cry and we cry it or like, whatever, right? Yeah. But then it's like, how long does it take you to get back up? Right? Like, you can't stay like. And it's closing the gap in that. Yeah. So like, for example, if it used to take your whole day to recover from whatever emotions that were coming up for you little by little, I know for me it's becoming, you know, I spent maybe 20 minutes in that vibe and that low vibration, and I'm aware of it. So I try my best either by meditating or going for a walk. Or mostly for me. What it works is meditation that brings me back to that center. Like brings me back to center and like, okay, I don't like that. These are just emotions that are going through me and kind of just releasing them by doing a meditation. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. And, you know, being conscious of, like, this is what works for me. Yeah. And like, I know I've seen a huge shift in our relationship like it used to. Whenever we would get into, like, a little miscommunication, it would take us, like, maybe four days or something. Yeah. From it. Oh. Holy shit. Yeah. Yeah. Like sometimes. Hell, yeah. I mean, like, break up every two weeks. No, it's. Not very often, but like, honestly. Yeah it would come to that. Yeah. It would come to us like not knowing how to process our emotions and not being able to communicate that to each other. Also, like we wouldn't communicate to each other what was going on and we just like harbored it inside and we were just like mad at each other for no reason. Yeah. And then one of us would be like, can we just get over it? Or sometimes we would have a conversations of like, well, is this a right? Like, are we right for each other? Right. Yeah. We were genuine conversations. Yeah. Are we right for each other? Like, this is where you trigger me and right where I trigger you. But I feel like the I feel like when we started having those more like deep conversations is when we kind of understood where each other was coming from. And we understood like, what to be aware of when we're both because we're very different. Yeah. Um, we grew up very different and the same at the same time, but very different. Yeah. But I feel like once we started having those conversations, we were more aware of the things that triggered, like triggered you or the things that triggered me. Um, but that helped us, that helped us stay in that high vibration. Mhm. Um, but yeah, I mean it's there is shit man. There is a lot of shit. It does take practice. It does take some time for you to go through these motions. The, the biggest thing is I feel the biggest thing is also like honestly like knowing what you want and living in intention with it. Mhm. Because if you let's just say that you're like you don't know what you want and you're just settling for what you think. Is the right thing is good for you. Yeah. What you think is good for you. And you just don't know what you want. Because you never explored any other. Any other thing, you know. Then you're just like, well, I don't know what I want, so I'm just going to continue to do this because at least this is providing me safety and I don't know what else I want. But yeah, I've had those conversations. That's where I'm able to like and demonstrate these conversations that you have with each other. Because I've had those conversations with myself so many times, right where I was like, well, what is my purpose in life? And, you know, like all of these things that you hear, you know, you're you're self developing people that say like, find your purpose. Yeah. And it's like, well, what the fuck is my purpose? Like, what am I here for? And that's a very hard question to answer. Yeah. Finally, I heard somebody say that something that resonated with me very deeply. And they said, your only purpose in life is to just be yourself. Mhm. Your authenticity brings whatever is needed. And obviously from that you follow your passion. Yes. And I was freaking mind blown. I'm like this whole time I've been searching for my fucking purpose and it's just being me. What the fuck? I've had the purpose all along. Yes. You mean I've been living my purpose? Yeah, that's. That's something that, you know, I was a part of this group thing last year for, like, three months, I think. Yeah. And it was really, like, just, you know, guidance for for filling your life out here in this world. Yeah. You know, one of the things that I learned from that group was we had set like desires. We had written down desires. And it's like, write some, I don't know for I forgot the amount, but one of them was to be the rawest and most authentic version of myself. And I think this is the first time that I share this, like out loud into the world other than with you at the end of the the group thing. They had us burn. It had us like burn one desire a day and at the end, the one that was left is the desire that you're meant to actually action on. Right. And the one that was left for me was to live in my most raw and authentic version of myself. Wow. And and I truly see that unraveling itself within me, day by day, like, minute by minute. Yeah. And and it just it's just so wild to me that I'm just like, Holy shit. My desire is being lived out every day. Yeah. But through that authentic expression, like you said of ourselves, is exactly how we're going to help others. Yeah. Our own selves. Yeah. Because it goes back to what you said, right? Like sharing your story. Yeah. Like. And us sharing this story. Like, I don't know any, like, somebody could resonate with it and help them. Yeah. Not feel like shit. Like oh everybody fucks up. Mhm. But if you do the practices, if you do, if you give yourself the opportunity to really like sit with yourself and learn who you are. Mhm. Not who society has made you know, but learn who you are. And what I mean by that is this. I was raised with the idea of having a job as being successful and that's who I thought I was. Like oh I have a good job. I have a good career. Right. Whatever that means. Yeah. Because what is a good career if you're not feeling good doing it? Yeah. So I was raised with that. I was raised in that sense like that. That was that was success. Success is like making money and having a good career and traveling. Yeah. Right. And traveling and, like, going on family vacations and stuff or whatever. Like that was the that was the definition of success. Like as in my 20s and 30s. And that's how I like. That's the belief that I had of success. And it's like that. That's not who I am. Yeah, I only believed in that because that's all I knew. Right. So what I mean, when you when I say like, find who you like. Give yourself the time to realize who you are is because it's sitting with yourself. And you have to journal and you really have to think about like, well, do I believe that? Like, write what you believe. Mhm. And you find out who you are. Yes. Because if you don't resonate like me, for example, when I was write, I remember I was journaling, journaling one day and I was writing about that. Like what is my believe with success. Mhm. And I wrote down like well being successful is, you know, making good money to be financially independent, blah blah blah, going on vacation, all of these things. And then when I was writing it, I was like, wait a minute, that's not true. Yeah. I don't really believe this. So what did you write? And I'm like, Holy fuck. Like, my whole perception and what I thought was the way you should success was. Yeah. Was a made up thing. Because that's what I saw in society. Right? And that's what I was told, like, was the success. And then I wrote, like, to me, I believe that success is really just following your passion. Mhm. Yeah. Because everything else comes with it. Exactly. And what I mean by that is like. If something makes you excited, if you're thinking of something and it makes you excited, even if it's the dumbest thing like to me when thinking about making videos on YouTube excites me and that and somebody else could be like, what the fuck, Nancy? Really? Yeah, like YouTube videos. That excites you? Yes, it does, because you're actually creating your own content and you're actually creating your own thing and you're putting it out there for the world, right? Think about it like this was an accessible couple years ago. No, we had to go through a media outlet and you had to go through, you know, like a company or like a media company to get something out that you wanted to take out and you wanted to share with the world. Yeah. That was very far fetched. Yeah. Now you have the capability of doing that yourself just by going live on YouTube or Instagram or TikTok. Yeah. And you could share your message with the world. Yeah. Like that excites me. I'm. I'm first-hand Stand ready to talk to everybody, just like we do on this podcast, right? So that I feel like that's makes me pat. Like, you could hear it in my voice. Yeah. As I'm telling the story. Like it's a passion. A passion that drives me. Yeah. And so that's what I mean when I say, like, follow your passion and that's what brings you alive. Like that's what. Being in alignment with yourself is. Yeah. That's that's what living from your truth is. That's what being authentic is. Following the things that make you excited in that way. Right. And no matter how stupid or dumb that they may sound, because you were told they they sound stupid. Yeah. It doesn't matter. Like, you have to like. That's that's what. That's what success means to me. So in having these little sessions of journaling and, and really digging deep into what I believed for certain things, like you find out who you really are. Mhm. You're literally like changing your beliefs and beliefs are essentially just thoughts, right? That you think over and over they become a belief. Yeah, but you think the thoughts over and over because it's what you see over and over. Correct. And when you grow up with where you grow up with and then you start thinking about it like, oh, I have to have a job because that's what success is. And then you think about it again and again and that becomes becomes your belief. And so you're being programmed because that's all you see. Mhm. So you have to essentially give yourself the time and sit down with these beliefs that you have and realize what if you feel like if you feel that really matches your matches you. Yeah. Yeah. That's all you can do is be aware of what lights you up when you're talking about something. Yeah. If you feel that passion and you feel yourself getting passionate and like and really excited about that topic, that is a hint for you and write it down and be like, oh, I felt really good when I was talking about this. Right. And then begin to follow that. Yeah. Yeah. And that's and it's so awesome to see. It's so awesome to see all of the opportunities coming your way because. Because you're doing the work. Yeah, because you're literally, like, staying in the high vibration. I see you doing the practices, I see you. I see, I see you really tuning in to yourself. Even when you have, like, a one on one sound bath session. You know, like you, you really, like, put your effort on making sure that you're tuned into the intention of that person. Yeah. In receiving what you have or what you're able to bring across the sound healing. Right? And that's amazing. Like, it's so beautiful to see because a lot of people that haven't heard of sound healing, like they don't really know what it entails. But as a sound healer that you are like, I could I see the intention. Your highest intention is to provide the safe space and facilitate that space for someone to receive what they have to. Yeah. In hopes for it to help them grow. Correct. Because I'm not a healer in any way. Right? I am just there to hold the space for you. You are your own healer. Your body, the divine, already knows what you need. In order for you to be able to heal whatever shit you need. Yeah. And and that's really all I'm here for is to just provide that and, and be of service to that person. And also, like, I feel like in this journey of, you know, we we go from corporate to following our passion is, is that it truly helps you build more confidence in yourself, more like your self esteem skyrockets, your trust in yourself skyrockets, and so many other things grow for you when you decide to, like, go for it. And I I'm just really quick. I think we almost have to end, but I you said like I used to also kind of be in something similar. I was like, I did sell insurance and it it was like being in business for myself. Right. And but it was so different. Yeah. Because the culture there is very like hustle and very like go, go, go, go meet the sales, how bad do you want it and blah blah blah. Yeah. How many other agents do you want to have under you and stuff? And I feel like that needs to change because for people to get more results, they need to learn how to slow down. Yeah. And, um, yeah, I'm gonna bring one on one coaching for those people in that area. So stay tuned for that. But yeah, like in order for people to get more results, you need to do less. And that's in general not just with sales. Yeah. So good. Yeah. So good. I am excited to share obviously our next steps here. I'm excited to. And again like I think we always say this and I don't know if this is like our outro or whatever, but we always say like if you feel or you connected with anything that we said here, like with us, like we're obviously wanting to build a community. Yeah. Brenda and I feel like there is definitely people that resonate with what we talk about and what we say. And I feel like there's got to be or we feel like there's definitely community that we can bring people together and we can talk about these things and, and bounce ideas off of each other, brainstorm and like. Um, help each other, you know, in whatever way possible. Help each other with. You know, if you're feeling certain emotion. Like talk. Talk to each other like. Like that's a thing, you know? So Brenda and I really want to. One of our goals here is to also build a community where, you know, people find a safe space. Yeah. If you guys feel open to that, like, reach out to us. Messages tell us messages tell us like, yeah, like, let's do it. We could start off doing, you know, WhatsApp and or like a group chat and we'll figure it out as we go. But I think it's important for us to have, you know, some people that we can count on. And I know that sometimes it's kind of like in like, not embarrassing, but you feel shy or whatever, you know, like to start even a conversation. You were not open or if it's something new to you. Yeah. Because I know that I was or I'm still I'm shy. I'm trying to get out of my shell because, like all my life, I kept telling myself I was an introvert, but socially, like, good. Yeah. Yeah. Or socially, an extrovert? Once I had a couple drinks in me. Right. Um, but that's not the case. That's literally a belief that I made up of myself. Yeah, and that's not who I resonate with. I'm definitely here to have those conversations and definitely here to be of service to whoever. So message us or text us on the on the episode description. There's a send us a tech thing. Oh yes. Send us a text through there. But messages on Instagram also if you want. And that way like whoever's down, we can start creating this chat. Yeah. So all it takes is just to reach out to us and tell us and we'll do it. And we're open to being in the community. Right. And like I said, it's nothing. It's not a huge thing. We're just going to be there for each other. You know, I don't know. We'll we'll all just share. Yeah. We'll figure it out. We'll figure it out. But thanks so much for listening in. Oh yes. And if you guys resonate with Nance and things that she mentions and says she is opening herself up for one on one guidance. I'm going there. I'm going there. Better up. Yeah. 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